Answers, About U & Me

The thing about me is this: there is a side of me that judges people’s behavior a lot, always ready to react. And today, that is what this is about. Honestly, this could easily be the kind of text you would find in a relationships blog, but I want to keep the focus on mental health and on how important it is to understand whether we are giving a part of ourselves to someone who actually gives us what we want and need.

It is about someone else. It has become routine by now, lived experience, and today something clicked. That moment when something inside you shifts.

The willingness we have to be close to someone in a genuine way is one of the most powerful sensations we can feel. It makes us feel alive, strong, hungry to live more days just to spend more time with the people we care about. I could talk about this mostly in a romantic sense, because that is where it hits the hardest, but I will not limit it to that.

It is about choosing to stay loyal to certain standards that are part of who we are. It is about being happy by cutting out everything that makes us question what is happening between us and others. It is about not settling for less than what we believe we deserve.

It is always about opening our heart to someone who can listen without arrogant judgment, someone who genuinely wants to understand us and help us see the truth.

In a relationship between two people, we should never drag something that is clearly not mutual. When one person keeps feeding the connection and the other simply gets used to the comfort of having someone who does everything. It is about choosing partners and friends who keep us in clarity, not in doubt. People who never make us question ourselves or what we have with them. That is the title. Clarity.

Answers do not always come in words. They come in actions.

Showing that you want to be with someone and never hearing the same back says a lot. Paying attention to small details, like always saying goodbye to the person you talk to every day, is not mandatory, but with the right person, with the friend who understands your vibe, reciprocity happens naturally. Things are always done by two.

“And here is the truth I kept avoiding. I sleep better after talking to you on my phone every time, but I am the one who always calls, not you. Even comfort can become a warning sign when it only flows in one direction.”

It is about choosing emotional stability. People who show they are there with their whole body and soul, regardless of the water that has already flowed in the past. People who understand what is happening between them and us. It is about not killing our discernment, our reasoning, or our feelings for people who, without much effort, give us less than what we want or feel.

If you do not want question marks between you and someone, ask yourself how many times you swallowed things you wanted to say, but the disappointment or resignation was stronger than the desire to speak.

It is about being with people who, sooner or later, always make the alarms go off.

Between me and her, it has to be at the same speed. If she goes faster, either she slows down or I speed up. One of the two. But in the end, we always have to meet. No question marks.

My friends do not need to be with me every day, because that is impossible. But when things get heavy, they are the ones who need to show up. If they do not, they are not my friends.

Talking is easy. Words get carried away by the wind. Answers, whether complete or incomplete, are the pillars of our lives, yesterday, today, and tomorrow. Betting on something or someone who leaves us with doubts every single day is self sabotage, and we are the ones responsible for it.

You do not make a friend real just by being attentive. And you do not make someone love you by loving them more.

Understand the answers that silence and actions give you. Adopt a posture that gives you peace.

It is about moving forward. Believing in what you see, not in what you imagine.

And in the end, it is about that moment when you finally let go. After so long trying to embrace imperfections that were never yours to carry. That moment when you breathe differently, when you feel your chest open again, when you realize that your peace is worth more than any connection that keeps you restless. That moment when you say to yourself, quietly but firmly: this time, I choose me.